Nigerian men consider themselves very romantic. I have heard this statement at least ten times now. Romantic, ah well. There seems to be a very distinct concept of romantic that is particularly Nigerian. It doesn't have anything to do with the Western perception of romantic, meaning candle-light dinners, long walks and deep conversations, holding hands watching the sunset (sorry for being so cliché); Nigerian romance is totally different. It might mean that your date takes you out to watch a football match at some random place, where you sit on plastic chairs and have a beer, while he is talking to his friends about the game. It might mean that a guy makes you wait several hours before he comes to pick you up for your first date, giving you random excuses for why he will be late, while he calls you every 20 minutes to tell you that "I m on my way", "I m very close now", "I ll be there in a few".
But the most romantic part is when they tell you that they love you, right away. When they say that they wouldn't mind getting married to you right now. When they send you text messages like "you have made me happy, decorated my heart wit sweet emotions n my face wit lovely smiles" when you know each other for one whole day. When they keep on explaining how much you mean to them and how they will do "just anything" for you, after you have spent 2 hours together, when they say they will "chop bullet" for you, or when they refer to you as "their wife" in front of their friends during your first date.
Certainly, they are not afraid of big words. But I m starting to be afraid of them. At least when they start being "romantic". There doesn't seem to be a process of getting to know each other, spending time together to find out what the other person is all about. It's love, right away, no more questions asked, no more details needed. In a sense, it actually is very romantic.
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I wonder how you might know all that. Did you already have several first dates? ;)
AntwortenLöschenThis sounds indeed very, very scary to me... It seems like it really doesn't matter at all what kind of person you are. Of course, it's a cultural thing, but if guys did that here, I would hate them for seeing me just as "random woman".
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AntwortenLöschenIts not a cultural thing at all. Nigerian guys are actually romantic and do love whoever they fall in love with. I was expecting such a report from you since after asking you if you have had marriage suitors.
AntwortenLöschenThe truth of the matter is that, you're experiencing that because you're European and yeah they wanna have a feeling of dating one. Simple but crude, you're gonna hear the sweetest words ever!! This will happen to any European in Nigeria be it male of female just that European males will be crowded by the girls and he doesn't really have to hit on girls but its highly dependent on which part of Nigeria and what kind of people.
Keep the blog going, I'm loving it:)
Cheers,
Yusuf.
The point I was trying to make was actually that I do think that Nigerian guys are romantic, but it is very different from what we would call romantic in Europe. I knew before coming here that being blonde and European would probably attract some attention, but I did not expect this. It's just a little too much too soon. I m not complaining, I m just reporting.
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